Today was a triumphant day for me. A fellow Etsian messaged me to let me know that our former stalker was finally "down". Her site domain was for sale. We had been cyber-bullied by Nora Laguna for a few years (yes, years) and this is a small final victory.

For a while, I hid my online identity so that she could not find me so easily. Until I could get her blocked everywhere, she harassed me on Facebook, Twitter, Etsy, and anywhere my real name or business name popped up. Of course I was not the only one she was bullying, so I was contacted by others and banded together to take her down.

She didn't go down without a fight. We used her own tactics right back at her, attacking on Facebook, Twitter, and other means. One group devoted a web page on TheDirty.com (now defunct). I personally had her removed from eBay and formed another group on Etsy to have both of her shops closed. Props to eBay and Etsy for handling it so well!

Why was she doing this? She was one of the old school online scammers, a la the "bait-and-switch". She posted photos of items and unsuspecting buyers would buy them. It was usually beautiful vintage clothing that would never arrive, or arrive nowhere near the stated condition. I had purchased a $200 lot of vintage clothing that was described as, and included photos of, 75+ pieces of vintage clothing. The box I received had about 20 pieces of vintage clothing, in questionable condition, and the rest were just random thrift store items and possibly her ex-boyfriends' clothing.

Kitty didn't mind the clothes.

When I filed a complaint with eBay and PayPal, the harassment began. She had my name, address, phone number, and email address, and so was easily able to find my business and Facebook and any social media. She posted threats and all sorts of lies and profanities. It is nightmarish when you are going through it. I had to set up Google alerts and even considered hiring a hacker to take her offline. I can't explain the relief I felt when I was contacted by others going through the same thing. Then we only had each other. Now there are organizations (stopcyberbullying.org) and (www.bullyonline.org).

Just recently, as in January 1st, 2015, I felt safe enough to post a new website, and even link to all of my social media on this site. She may rear her ugly head again, but this time I am prepared. You may now legally prosecute someone for cyber-bullying. This wasn't the case in 2009 when this all went down. So much has changed in such a short time. This post is mostly cathartic, but also to make sure her story is kept alive and she does not get to fade quietly away.

"Living well is the best revenge." - George Herbert

New website!

Just in time for the new year!

A new website with all links to everything in one place!

The domain is currently being forwarded, but sneak preview here!

Let us know whatcha think!

I Want It NOW

Not only am I a seller of things vintage online, but I also do as much of my shopping online as humanly possible. As a buyer, I want the stuff I already doled my hard-earned money out for in my hands as soon as humanly, or otherwise, possible.

If only same-day carrier pigeon were possible!

As a seller, I understand this, and ship things using that sense of urgency, often the same day as the order. Whether it is clothing, new bed linens, or perhaps that Eames-era ash tray you got off Etsy as a new jewelry holder, it's like Christmas every day you get a package in the mail.

Don't judge.

Two things: 1) customers should set normal expectations for delivery times, and 2) sellers should make sure the packages arrive (safely) within those expected times.

What buyers should know:

-There is, unfortunately, no cheap shipping option. Shipping is determined by weight, size, and destination. So, unless you purchased a feather, expect it to cost something.

- The more inexpensive the option, the slower. First class mail takes about 3 business days. Priority is 2-3. Express is overnight. Large/heavy items go by parcel and take 10. Note: over 13 oz. cannot go 1st class and are forced into the next tier.

- Don't trust the seller. I said it. It's true. Make sure they add tracking. If it's breakable, make sure they add insurance. The best sellers include these options in their shipping costs.

Yay! A box of bubble wrap!

What sellers should know:

- If you plan on making even a part-part-time business of selling online, you MUST buy a scale and a printer. Trips to the post office cause unnecessary delays and are actually costing you money in paying full price postage and packaging.

- Utilize online shipping, tracking, and insurance options. Many sites will offer label printing for you and even discount the postage. There are now several companies that will insure your package for a fraction of the price of the big shippers (UPS, USPS, FedEx).

- Ship immediately! Pretend it is you waiting for that awesome thing you just bought!

- Don't trust the buyer. Yep. Make sure you add tracking and insurance to every package. Otherwise, be prepared to give your stuff away for free whether it is actually lost or damaged as a very high percentage will claim it was. Yes, this sucks. Don't be a victim.

-Check everything before you ship it and package it accordingly. Don't let things bang around inside a box. You have seen those videos of the delivery person kicking boxes onto porches? (source: YouTube) Packing peanuts are cheap. Newspaper is often free. Boxes can be free if you aren't adverse to perusing the dumpsters behind the local strip mall.

Whatever you do, don't mark it fragile.

 International shipping has gotten so much better. You can now print the customs forms and do all the things online from the comfort of your home office. Did you buy that scale and printer yet? DO IT. While you are at it, buy/get some tissue paper, shipping envelopes, paper & ink for your printer (or labels if you wanna be so fancy), packing tape, and boxes (you can order USPS priority containers for free and delivered to your door). I still find the best deals on ink, tissue paper, and mailers on eBay.

Please feel free to post any comments, questions, or concerns for my general well-being. I hope you have a wonderful holiday shopping season!